How To Know If He's Not Right For You

Relationships can be difficult, especially in the awkward 'talking' stage, here's how to know if he's just not right for you.

He Isn't Willing To Commit

We are all bound to encounter this one, and it's really nobody's fault. At one point or another you may have an amazing connection with someone who is just not ready for a relationship, either they were scorned in a past love, they had a bad romantic example, whatever the reason may be they are not ready to commit to you. In this situation you need to stand back and look at the big picture, do you think that this spark is worth waiting for, or do you need someone that is willing to commit to you and only you? If you are comfortable with waiting for the spark to shock his love to life, remember not to give up too easily, considering that you knew what the situation was when you made your decision; also be conscious not to wait around for too long, while you are willing to wait, you are not willing to be strung along. If you are not willing to wait around for someone with commitment issues, then tell them right away that you aren't comfortable with the situation, and consider being friends, or parting ways if being friends is too awkward. Remember your worth ladies, but don't rush something that isn't ready!

He Always Has An Excuse

Okay, this is now the third time that you have tried to plan a date, tried to call, or that you have been completely blown off, you might want to keep reading! With the understanding that sometimes things happen and we can't always respond the absolute fastest. we're going to talk about the kind of guy that we all know too well: The "I'm busy, can't talk" guy, but you see that he is liking pictures on Instagram and they aren't yours.  The big picture here is to find a happy relationship, and most of the time if a guy is giving you excuses as to why he can't talk to you or see you, is as simple as he doesn't want to; as heartbreaking as this sounds, women are known for expecting men to pick up on hints, and men tend to do the same. If he isn't putting in the extra effort, you shouldn't either.

He Doesn't Show Any Interest

Alright now, we've all been through this one I'm sure. He acts like he's interested but when he says or does something that throws you completely off, you are left wondering "WTF.." Well here's the thing ladies, if a guy is interested he will act interested; he will make a point to text you back even if it just says "what did you do today?" He will tell you that he thinks you're cool, or tell you you're beautiful or pretty, if he's a good one! If he isn't making a point to tell you he's interested, he probably isn't, but do not let this discourage you. There is someone out there for everyone, and if he isn't interested in you someone else will be!

It's All Lust

If sexually related activities are all you have to do when you spend time together, there's a strong chance that you have mistaken love for lust. In today's era of 'Netflix and Chill' the line between friends with benefits and being an item can get completely blurred, this happens when you realize that the best thing about spending time together becomes all about how dirty you can get that night. Now I know that steamy nights are expected, but if a habit of only having nights in occur, or you notice that your messages are recently all sexting, you may need to stand back and look at the bigger picture. If you would like to clarify this situation, try talking to your significant other and getting down to the good stuff, is it all sex, or is it love? If it happens to be all lust then you should decide if this kind of relationship is okay with your partner and goes along with what you personally believe in; if  you or your partner are not okay with a sexually based relationship, you may need to have a longer talk. If you are lucky and just happen to have fallen in love and have a steamy amount of lust, then it sounds like you found a healthy relationship, congrats!

He Puts You Down

When he's around you should feel comfortable, and safe, but what if instead you notice that when he's around, you feel at your lowest. Emotional abuse is a very common relationship issue that really doesn't get talked about enough, it can be through text, daily criticism, harsh name-calling, and much much more; if you have noticed that when you are with your partner, you feel down, sad, or upset by the things he says or does, you may need to leave the relationship. Emotional abuse can lead to depression, suicidal thoughts, suicide, physical abuse, and years of trauma, it is a serious problem when introduced in a relationship, and should not be taken lightly; if he has told you "you're not good enough", "you are too fat," "you're too thin," "why don't you look like that?" or anything that makes you feel ashamed, or constantly sad, you should consider counseling or leaving the relationship. If you or anyone you know is going through depression or crisis please click on this link and follow the directions listed, Crisis Text Line is open 24/7 and is completely free.

While this article was directed by request to my female viewers, I will be working on a new series focusing on events, articles, and uplifting posts directed to my male viewers, written with help from men! Thank you beautiful souls for reading today's Dailey Dose, stay tuned for tomorrow's blog! Don't forget to subscribe below so you don't miss a dose! Like us on Facebook @TheDaileyDose